For many people, the attachments they form to their pets are just as important as those they have to people.
These bonds can grow very deep as years of loving companionship between human and animal go by.
As a pet lover and pet ceremony celebrant myself based in Leicestershire, I understand totally.
Every Fur Baby is Special
Non-animal lovers sometimes do not understand the “fur baby connection”. So when they see an attached owner in real grief after the death of a beloved pet, they may not fully understand or be very supportive.
If you are a true animal lover, you will recognise that your relationships with your pets indeed are important enough to honour them with a special ceremony.
A pet ceremony can either be helpful when a new pet joins the household, or when a beloved pet has died.
I am available to discuss with you whatever ceremony you might be interested in having. Perhaps you would like to talk with me about ideas; or perhaps I could write a ceremony that you will conduct yourself; or perhaps, you want me to write and conduct the ceremony at your home. All of these options are possible.
Adopting a new pet, and falling in love with them, are both joyful experiences. A small gathering of family members and close friends to name and welcome the new pet can be very meaningful. The choosing of a name for the new pet can have great significance. Maybe its because the name itself is very special, or the process the family went through to allow the children to participate in the meaning.
If children are a part of the family, highlighting their new responsibilities toward the new addition can add significance to the promises they might have made to their parents. Children can step forward and state publicly what they are committing to contribute to the care of the animal.
The loss of a beloved pet triggers real grief. And real grief needs to be recognised, expressed, and supported. This is what a pet funeral or memorial can provide for the grieving owner. Honouring the importance of that animal to the owner and/or family, sharing stories about good times with the pet, and participating in the saying “good-bye” with the support of family and friends can be very helpful.
Helping your children understand Pet Bereavement
You can help your children learn important lessons about how to handle loss and sadness without any “lectures”. Planning and participating in the ceremony honours their feelings. It also teaches your children the important points about how to cope with future losses. Holding a ceremony can be powerful and helpful in incorporating loss into ongoing life and celebrating what the pet contributed to the life of the owner.